That sounds a lot less like a hypothetical question and more like... something else.

[ Okitsu is careful to keep his gaze off Rufous, too afraid he may not be able to appropriately temper his own facial expression, unwilling to risk giving a look that could be construed as pity.

it might be unhelpful.

saying it sounds like 'it sounds like lived experience' might be, too. ]

I can't tell you what your limits are. But I can tell you that not everyone is out to hurt you, and not everyone will be unwilling to give you a chance to decide who you want to be.